Heartbreak is hard on everyone holding onto this
heartbreak is one of the worst things you could do ,in my opinion , it will
destroy your motivation.I am not a Doctor just someone who
has talked and who has tried to help so many to the point where I thought
writing this page might help some in a positive way . Holding on to it, just
keeps it going on and on in your mind ,like a broken record you just keep
playing the memories back over and over and over again. Rather it's over
someone you loved , who no longer loves you in return , from past abuse
that has been done to you , from something you did that was wrong .To
anything that you are holding on to that is hurting you to the point you are
not happy .Some will get in a mind state of depression where they won't
even feel like getting out of bed , or you just walk in like a trance all day
long , with not many emotions but sadness, you just let yourself go . You
will be stuck in this rut of your own creation . Like living in a prison in
your own head . The only way to get out of this mind state is to let go of
the hurt ,or the pain , to let go of the past , because that is where it is , in
the past . Let go of any wrongs you may have done in the past .Or the
wrong of others , that has hurt you deeply, Release the pain into the stars,
say out loud I release all of the pain , all the negative energy I may
have ,please turn this negative energy into love and light , let me learn from
any of the past mistakes so that I won't make them again. It's best not to
hold on to them for this will only hurt you and you won't be able to grow .
You need to find other ways of motivation . To get this off of your mind
in a positive way . Abusing drugs or drinking to heavy isn't the answer ,
turning to Art,Writing,Music or walking or taking up something that is
good for you is . LET IT GO , DO NOT HOLD ON TO IT . Don't let it eat
you from the inside out . Make a stand . Tell yourself everyday good things
about yourself . You are a good person , You are beautiful , You are funny,
You are smart, You are nice , You have pretty eyes, You deserve someone
who loves you , You deserve to love yourself .You need to get up and do
something good for yourself everyday, even if its just something very
small . Don't let others or pass mistakes change this . Just learn from them
and try not to ever make the same mistake twice . Take baby steps, and if
you fall, just get right back up on your feet again . All these words and
thoughts are from my own opinion and perception. from years of talking
with others , who doesn't let go or know how to let go of the pain . My
opinion is not to do anything more negative to yourself just change your
way of thinking , find positive things to help you keep your mind busy and
away from the hurt that you have been feeling. A good thing you could try
is by saying these things aloud a few times a day.
Even though I have this ----------- ,what ever it is you have on you that is bothering
you . I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even through I have this ----------,I deeply and profoundly accept myself.
Even through I still have some of this ----------,I deeply and completely
accept myself .
Remember again I am no
Doctor just someone who cares, and understands. Who myself has also
been there , and who has also talked with so many . Know you are loved .
Love and Light to you always . Everyone has freewill , this page was only
written to help you with the pain that you might hold inside you that you
keep feeling that is hurting you more than it is helping you . It's best to never
do harm to others or to yourself . I once read if we have Beauty in our
hearts than it transforms the world around us. Again it is up to you if you
want to hold on to this pain , it's just my opinion to let go of it and find
other means of motivation. To keep your mind busy . Good positive
things . This page or any other page in this website is not a substitute for
the advice or treatment normally received from a doctor or psychiatrist or
from any licensed professional . It is only from my opinion .
Just for today :
Do not be angry
Do not be worried
Work Hard ( on improving yourself)
Be kind to others
Every morning and Every night with hands held palm to palm, speak these words out loud and from your heart or at least say them to your heart . Do this every day and night until it sinks in even than you may still need to keep this up .